It’s tough to do …
When I was a teen and my siblings were younger, our family took an extended camping trip across the country for 8 weeks. We didn’t know it at the time, but it would be the defining period of our lives … it would be a topic of fond remembrance and nostalgic conversation from then on.
We’d created a memory … without knowing we were doing it and without really trying.
Now, Betty and I want to do something similar.
We’re busy trying to pull together a big family trip for ourselves and our three grown children.
We just want to take a 7-day cruise together … not 8 weeks, but just 7-days in the Caribbean … with nothing to do but relax and enjoy the scenery, the weather, and each other’s companionship.
Sounds wonderful, right? But, it just hasn’t been as simple as we’d hoped.
The plan was to pick a date that suited everyone, book the cruise, fly down and get on the boat.
Well, so far, finding a date that works for everybody has been a struggle. For various reasons, none of the kids can find a time, at the same time.
Of course the periods when everyone has a substantial amount of time off … like Thanksgiving or Christmas/New Years is the time when flights and cruises are the most expensive and travel is the most hectic.
I have visions of the harrowing situations in the “Home Alone” movies when I think about trying to plan something over a major holiday, never mind the added expense.
We do want to create a memory, but we want it to be a happy one, not one filled with frustration and anxiety.
Of course, the obvious has slowly begun to dawn on us. Memories aren’t created, they just happen. You cannot make them happen and trying too hard inevitably leads to disappointment.
We’re not going to give up on doing something significant together as a family … maybe it will still be the cruise … maybe something else.
But, if it happens, it will have come about in its own time and at its own pace. And when it happens, it will be something we will all remember fondly from that point onward.